Listen. Wait. Respond: Key to Healthy Communication

 

"Be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry" (James 1:19). This simple yet profound advice forms the foundation for healthy communication. James alerts us that we need to practice this technique to foster understanding and harmony in our interactions.

How many of our conflicts would dissolve if we listened to this scripture with our hearts? Plenty. How much easier would it be to express ourselves to fellow Christians and those who disagree with our point of view? Easier and more worthwhile. But why is it so hard to implement this technique in our relationships?

Several reasons come to mind. First, we often lack true compassion or the desire to understand another person’s concern or complaint. Second, arrogance makes us want to be right about everything at any cost. Third, we are quick to offer short-term solutions to long-term problems. Finally, we carry negative and unrighteous thoughts, causing us to label others as unwise or immature.

Why is it important to be quick to listen and slow to speak? This approach produces the righteousness that God desires. We must rid ourselves of all filth, unrighteous behaviors, and evil in our lives and choose to humbly accept the word of God. Jesus wants the method of Listen. Wait. Respond. to be implanted in our hearts. James 1:21 reinforces this truth.

Listening to understand before you respond shows that you are not wise in your own eyes (Proverbs 12:15) and not leaning on your own understanding (Proverbs 3:6). Do you really want to grow in this grace? 

Simply pray for this over your life:

"Father, Your word tells us to be swift to hear and slow to speak. We ask for Your help, Lord. Help us listen to each other’s hearts so that we might know when the other is hurting and what our needs are. Help us see the struggles we’re facing and give us the strength to stand strong together. Help us feel what the other is feeling so that we might grow in compassion and grace."

In conclusion, adopting the Listen. Wait. Respond. method can transform our communication and relationships. By being quick to listen and slow to speak, we align ourselves with God's desire for righteousness. We can overcome conflicts and build stronger connections with others, whether they share our beliefs or not. Implementing this technique requires humility, compassion, and a willingness to understand others deeply. 

So, how would your conflicts change if you truly listened with your heart?