Powerful Lessons I Learned from "Keep It Shut" by Karen Ehman

I recently finished reading Keep It Shut by Karen Ehman, and I have to say, it was a game-changer for me. This book offered me practical and biblical wisdom on the power of words and the importance of guarding my speech. I want to share some of the most valuable lessons I learned from Keep It Shut, lessons that have transformed how I communicate and relate to others.

The Power of Controlled Speech

One of the main messages in Keep It Shut is how our words hold tremendous power, both to build up and to tear down. I was reminded of the biblical truth in Proverbs 18:21: “The tongue has the power of life and death.” Karen Ehman emphasizes that choosing when to speak and when to remain silent can save relationships, protect our peace, and honor God.

Before reading this book, I often spoke out of frustration or haste. Now, I pause more, asking myself if my words will encourage or harm. This shift hasn’t been easy, but it’s brought peace to my conversations and helped me avoid unnecessary conflict.

Learning to Listen More, Speak Less

Keep It Shut encouraged me to embrace the discipline of listening, which many of us overlook. Karen shares how listening carefully can deepen relationships and prevent misunderstandings. James 1:19 instructs us, “Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry.” That verse came alive for me in a new way as I practiced more intentional listening.

By listening more, I gained patience and empathy. Instead of rushing to respond, I learned to absorb what others were truly saying. This practice improved my connections at home, work, and church. It also kept me from saying things I’d later regret.

The Wisdom of Saying Less

Karen Ehman’s book teaches that sometimes the wisest choice is to say less. Proverbs 17:28 says, “Even fools are thought wise if they keep silent, and discerning if they hold their tongues.” I used to believe that more words meant better communication, but Keep It Shut helped me see the value in restraint.

Now, I consider silence a strength rather than a weakness. Holding my tongue allows me to reflect, pray, and respond thoughtfully. It has helped me avoid gossip, negativity, and needless drama. This lesson transformed not only what I say but how I think about communication.

Embracing Boundaries for Healthy Speech

Another crucial lesson I took from Keep It Shut is the importance of setting boundaries in conversations. Karen encourages readers to know when to walk away or change the subject to avoid unproductive or harmful exchanges. This reminded me of Proverbs 25:11: “A word aptly spoken is like apples of gold in settings of silver.” Knowing when and how to speak wisely requires discernment and courage.

Setting boundaries has helped me protect my mental and emotional health. Instead of getting pulled into every debate or criticism, I now choose carefully when to engage and when to rest in peace. This practice also honors God by keeping my speech pure and purposeful.

Finding Freedom Through Godly Communication

Ultimately, Keep It Shut showed me that controlling my words is a form of spiritual discipline. Ephesians 4:29 encourages us, “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what helps build others up.” This book helped me understand that speech can be a tool for blessing when surrendered to God’s guidance.

By applying Karen’s principles, I’ve experienced greater freedom and joy. I no longer feel enslaved by impulsive words or regretful moments. Instead, I walk with a newfound confidence that my speech reflects God’s love and grace.

Conclusion: Speak with Wisdom, Live with Peace

Reading Keep It Shut by Karen Ehman was a transformative experience. It taught me the power of controlled speech, the value of listening, and the wisdom of saying less. These lessons help me live more peacefully and communicate more effectively, all while honoring God.

If you struggle with what you say or wish to grow in godly communication, I highly recommend this book. It offers practical, biblical advice that anyone can apply.

What is one area in your communication where you feel called to “keep it shut” and speak with more wisdom?